Master Your Emotions: 6 Steps to Emotional Intelligence

all right welcome back to the daily mastermind i want to talk to you today about emotional mastery the thing that all of us seem to struggle with at times my name is george wright the third i am your host and i've got the quote of the day for you from napoleon hill and the quote of the day is more gold has been mined from the thoughts of men than has ever been taken from the earth that is a great quote in other words don't let your dreams die inside you make sure that you are willing to do the work and get out there and mine for gold create your best life so let's talk today about success and emotional mastery because you know as well as i do that success will require emotional mastery because look we can get caught up on a day-to-day basis we're in traffic we feel frustrated with a co-worker. And it's important to realize that we're not always conscious of our emotional states. But if you don't master your emotions, they can take control and lead you down the wrong path. And maybe even so far down the path, there's no turning back. And so it's only something that you can learn to grow and adapt to. And it's only something you can do if you are conscious of it. Because look, love, hate, anger, joy, sadness, all spectrums of emotions are gifts. They're great gifts to us. You don't want to get rid of emotions because without them, life is just meaningless. You can't have one without the other. But learning how to master your emotions and use them instead of letting them use you, that is the key to achieving your dreams in every aspect of your life. So you hear this term emotional intelligence. And what that refers to is your ability to manage your thoughts and feelings. And if you have, they say, a high degree of emotional intelligence, you can read your own emotions pretty well and kind of predict how they're going to impact other people Bruce Lee had a great quote He said you continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you True power is sitting back and observing everything with logic And if words control you, that means anyone and everyone can control you. So breathe and allow things to pass. So why is this whole idea of emotional intelligence so important? Well, we can't change. We cannot change our objective experiences in life. Things happen every day to us that are outside our control. But we can control our subjective experience, meaning the meaning that we attach to things that happen. This is emotional mastery, and it has a massive impact on your relationships, self-worth, communications, overall fulfillment, even your confidence when you can't control your emotions. And so learning to control or to have emotional mastery, I should say, is very, very important. So Tony Robbins, I've really enjoyed a lot of the stuff he's done on emotions because he believes there's six steps to emotional mastery or mastering your emotions. I want to take you through those today. The first is you've got to learn to identify what you're feeling. So when you get in a situation where you feel like things are getting the best of you, ask yourself questions. What am I feeling right now? Am I feeling angry? Am I feeling sad? Am I feeling upset? And if not, what am I really feeling? So it's important to identify what it is that you're actually feeling and be really clear because sometimes on the surface we think it's one thing, but it's really, you know, your anger might be the surface, but you might really be hurt or embarrassed or things like that. The second step is acknowledging your emotions without judgment. This is where so many of us falter. Mastering your emotions, it does mean identifying them, but it doesn't mean denying them or shutting them down. Instead it important to acknowledge your emotions without guilt or judgment Why am I Why am I doing this Why do I feel this way Your emotions are part of who you are It make you the person that you are becoming And so if you make yourself feel bad or wrong or discourage yourself, this can really affect your confidence. And so acknowledge those emotions without any judgment. The third step is you have to ask yourself, what can a particular emotion offer you? See, when you become this objective observer of your emotions, Look, it's okay to approach your emotions with curiosity. In fact, this can help you to develop a deeper understanding of them. The more questions you ask, the better you'll understand them and you'll be this stepping back in order to analyze them. Like Michael Singer talks about in The Untethered Soul, when you step back to objectively view, you're no longer the one experiencing the emotions. You're the one noticing the emotions. So analyze what a particular emotion can offer you. And then fourth, build your emotional confidence. Because when you start practicing emotional mastery, you can often become impatient and negative about the whole process. But as you gain confidence, as you gain confidence that you have emotional mastery, and that happens because the more you handle and identify and accept emotions, the more confidence you're going to get. So learn to build that emotional confidence. And then fifth, allow yourself the certainty that you can handle difficult emotions. And I love this topic because one of my mentors, Robert Stuburg, always talks about these things of certainty and uncertainty. And we need both in our life. I know most people's thought is I want to create some much less uncertainty. But allow yourself certainty that you can handle any emotions. you don't have to experience never having certain emotions you just have to have certainty that you can handle them because and I know this is a lot to unpack but when you build confidence by rehearsing the situations you're going to learn that you can always work through them and that certainty in handling those situations will help to give you more and more confidence and it just kind of an endless loop And then finally get excited about your newfound power You know, he talks about gaining emotional mastery is like finding out you have a superpower. You should get excited about it and use it for the good of creating life and helping others. When you find yourself in a difficult situation, take a breath and remember that you can handle whatever emotions crop up. Then take action and prove it. Prove it to yourself. Prove it to others. because it's never too late to start working on your emotional mastery. And by following the steps I've talked about and really learning to be objective and identify and accept emotions and respond to them well, with practice, you're going to find it gets easier and easier to remain aware of your emotions. And that is the key. The more you're aware of your emotions, the more you'll able to manage them and learn to master them as well. So make sure that you really share this episode today with people that you know. I mean, share it with people that you feel will benefit. I hope this is something that was beneficial for you. You know, I want to bring up topics that aren't necessarily the easy topics, but I also want to try to give you tangible things that you can do to work with these, you know, these difficult things like emotions. The more you get that emotional mastery, the more you're going to find that you also have your own self-esteem and self-confidence increase and grow. So I hope that's something that helped you. Use it throughout the week. Use it throughout this month. So I really am appreciative of you joining me. I appreciate the support that you have for the podcast. And I want to be able to help you. So feel free to hit me up on The Daily Mastermind on Instagram or Facebook. Let me know what you're struggling with, what I can do to support you. And I look forward to doing that. I look forward to responding to anybody who sends in DMs on our page or emails me directly. So anyway, that's my message for today. I hope you have an amazing day. Once again, my name is George Wright III, and this has been The Daily Mastermind. Thank you.