welcome back to the daily mastermind my name is george wright the third with your daily dose of inspiration motivation and education today i want to talk to you about why we do what we do you know the six core human needs that tony robbins talks about have you ever wondered why we do the things that we do of course our thoughts and emotions shape our behaviors and and the results that we have in life, but what really influences our conscious and unconscious thoughts on a day-to-day basis. I put a lot of thought into this over the last week, and I know we've discussed many different influencing factors that contribute to our lives, and we've even talked about ways to influence and change your behaviors and results. But today, I want to talk to you about identifying what really truly affects your life on a deeper level. And this is this topic of the six core human needs by Tony Robbins. Now, many of you may be aware of Abraham Maslow. He was an American psychologist who studied and documented human needs and behavior. He developed a well-known theory of human behavior called Maslow's hierarchy of needs. And the most basic of these needs, which influence our behavior are food, the need for shelter, safety, you know, those kind of things. And then there's a higher level of needs like love and self-esteem and personal growth, you know, in order to achieve this level of self-actualization and happiness in life that he talks about. And these are the main influencing factors in our behavior. As a result, these influence and create the results that we achieve in life. But Tony Robbins went on to further develop this concept and what he calls the six core human needs. And he's become really well known for this training because it's literally impacted thousands of people throughout the world during his career. He believes that and kind of talks about how all humans have the same six core needs and that if they're fulfilling these needs, they'll experience the most happiness. And if they're not, then they'll feel dissatisfied with life or stuck at times. And, you know, he went on to say that if you'll prioritize, and I think most of us do prioritize a couple of these needs that we set at a higher level, those needs will actually drive most of our conscious and our unconscious thoughts and actions. So you can see how these needs are driving our behavior and actions, and then they'll ultimately determine our results, our happiness, and even our levels of fulfillment. So many people choose to meet these six needs in positive ways, but it's also important to note that, and it's very common by the way, that people meet these needs in a negative or destructive way and that leads them into major problems and struggles and, you know, all kinds of things. You know, this meeting our needs in a negative way never brings long-term happiness. It might be short-term happiness, but ultimately it leads to pain and frustration, anxiety, stress, depression, and things like that. So I want to ask you a couple of questions. Are you aware of what core needs you prioritize already in your life? And are they being met in a positive or a negative way? And that's kind of what I want to talk about today. So I'd like to outline the six core needs that you might be, you know, I want you to just be more aware of and which ones you're prioritizing. And I want you to continue to focus on fulfilling these needs in a more positive and a higher way and just at a higher level. So I feel it's important to truly understand if you're feeling particular, filling particular needs, and if you're doing it in a positive or negative way, so that this can help you to drive your thoughts and your behaviors in the direction you want them to go, rather than maybe in the direction that they're going right now. So let's start to go through these needs and feel free to take some notes and really dig into what you feel are your main influencing factors to your success And you know note that it interesting that the first four of these needs are the ones that fulfill the needs of our personality. And the last two needs are the ones that fulfill the needs of our spirit. This is, you know, true fulfillment and happiness comes from fulfilling these last two needs. So pay close attention to those as we go through. So here are the six core needs. And the first four, remember are the needs of the personality. The first one is the need for certainty. This is the need for safety, stability, security, you know, comfort, predictability, and control. Ultimately, it's for us, we want to avoid pain, right? We want certainty, which will help us to avoid pain. Now, obviously, we do our best to avoid pain in our lives by creating certainty, but a problem can arise for many of us because we create unrealistic expectations of what it takes to have certainty in our life and what it would take. So this can cause stress for us. And we never seem to meet the need for this certainty because of that. And this is when you start to discover that you're limiting beliefs and the programming and stuff you have inside is what's really affecting your expectations and filling of these needs. Okay. Now, on the other hand, if we have too much certainty, what happens? We get bored. And that's why we need this second core need. And that's for variety or uncertainty. You know, this is the need for variety, surprise, challenges, excitement, difference, you know, chaos, adventure, a little bit of change. How many of us love to have a surprise? And as Tony Robbins says, that's usually crap because we like surprises that we like, not that we don't like, but nonetheless, we do have a need and a desire for uncertainty or change in our life. My partner and my mentor, Robert Stuburg, would say that true success as an entrepreneur and in creating happiness in your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty that you can handle in your life. I know he says this because as you already know, success, growth, and even uncertainty lies outside your comfort zone. And that's what happens when we try to fill this particular need. Now, it's interesting to note that these first two core needs, they sort of work as a paradox and continually try to balance each other out. Because the more certainty you get, the less uncertain you are. And the more uncertainty, the less certainty, right? So we crave both, which is why we, you know, we kind of have to balance these in our lives. Now, this leads us to the third core need. The third core need is significance. Everyone wants to feel significant. They need to have meaning and feel pride and validation and a sense of importance and worthy of love. You know, we want to feel special. And I read a very impactful quote from Adam Sakinski that I think explains the need for significance really well. He said, you can feel more significant by achieving something, by building something, by learning something, or even by tearing other people down. They're all legitimate ways to fulfill the need for significance. the need for significance can help you achieve more do more and become the person that you desire to be all professional athletes would admittedly admit I'm sorry would probably admit that the need for significance is a big part of their career in fact it's probably one of the most important factors that go into every decision they make but on the other hand the need for significance can be used for evil purposes for example it could be used to hurt people or gain an unfair advantage Take, for example, a bully. Bullies bully other people to feel important and significant and worthy. Therefore, the need for significance can actually lead to violence. And I think it's very important to note, especially with everything going on in the world right now, Tony Robbins talks about how violence can be the ultimate way to feel significance. This is what's so wrong with it, right? It fulfills the need for having significance in a very destructive way So you know there nothing more significant and people pay attention than to violence And this is why we have to understand for significance it very important that we kind of understand how to deal with this and how to help individuals create a more positive and productive way in society to have significance. And that's so important. And we can understand why people do things and we can understand how to affect ultimate change. So then we have core human need number four, which is love and connection. The need for love and connection is the need for communication and approval and connection and to be loved and intimacy with another person. You know, and ultimately we're all searching for connection because love is one of the most powerful emotions that can bring with it true happiness. It can also, you know, bring out your deepest fears because of things like rejection and loneliness and regret. But the key is to understand that love can be influenced by our beliefs in a huge way. If you have low self-esteem, self-worth, or you have past failures in relationships, or for example, even outside relationships in business, bad business experiences, that those can all affect the way we fulfill this need for love and connection. A great example of this is why so many of us settle for a connection rather than a deeper commitment and deeper relationship with other people, because we don't want to get hurt in a relationship, but we still have to fill this need. So we, we settle, we settle for connection. And the problem with that is that we never truly fill this need long-term. We just have short-term fulfillment of this need through connection. And, and, you know, the same can be said in business. If you're untrusting or unwilling to, to risk or to work with individuals because you're untrusting of people, it holds you back from your goals. Even though you might create some short-term wins, the long-term ultimate wins elude you, right? So let's now gravitate and shift to the last two core human needs, which is the needs of the spirit. Now, this is where you find true fulfillment and growth, which leads me to number five, which is growth. We all have a need for constant emotional, intellectual, and spiritual development. And that's why I believe so much in personal development, because I think it satisfies this fulfillment in our life. You know, you've heard the saying, if you're not growing, you're dying. And this comes from the fact that we all need to grow. The best way to do this is through personal development. Without personal development, you can feel stuck in life. You can feel like something's missing. I remember, you know, from many, many of the successes I've had, that even though I had that success and that short-term growth, the long-term kind of eluded me until I realized that this need needed to be filled. and the negative side of growth is that and i've experienced this as well is that many of us apply filters of perfectionism so we don't really recognize that we're growing because either number one we're comparing ourselves to other people or number two we set the bar so high for our personal growth that we never really meet the need in our mind in our mind right so the key is to always play the game of life against the past version of yourself and not the others or some future expectation of where you need to be remember as long as you're growing and you're constantly on a day-to-day basis growing and then that's the key okay and to always remember that you know you need to you need to look forward in life when it comes to growth not backward right okay so last one this is the sixth core human need Tony Robbins talks about and that is a need for contribution the need to give beyond ourselves to give care protect serve other people and another way of saying this is the secret to living is giving and to meet that you'll ultimately need to fill this by creating impact and contributing to the people around you now this might be in your community or your family or your business with your partners and employees or even in your relationships i really like you know again what my partner robert stubert says when he talks about his life mission and and purpose is to help individuals identify and apply their unique talents Because the key to life is understanding your unique talent This is the things that you are excellent at and you're passionate about. And then to apply that unique talent in the service to other people. This is an amazing way to create success while living a happy and fulfilled life and having that wealth as well. but it also satisfies the need at an extremely high level, that core human need. So those are the six needs. So let me ask you a question. How are you meeting your core human needs? You know, we strive daily to meet these needs, but remember that our needs can ultimately be met in both constructive and destructive ways, positive and negative ways that will ultimately influence our life. So I believe that, just let me back up for a second, because I really know that there's a lot of people suffering from stress and anxiety and depression and dysfunctional behavior. And this comes because you're either not filling your needs or you're filling them in a negative way. So the key is to understand what your limiting beliefs are that are affecting your core needs. And it's to find out how you can fill these needs in a very positive way. So it creates long term lasting change. In other words, how are your daily routines influencing in a positive or negative way, the programming that you've adopted and the needs that you have. So I encourage you to do this. I want you to ask yourself these questions. What are my top core needs? What are the ones I want to prioritize? How am I filling these needs right now? Am I doing them in a positive or negative way? And what are the beliefs that I have that are creating or driving these needs? Also, I want you to ask yourself, are the ways you're filling these needs serving you right now? Are they ultimately contributing to your life mission and creating lasting long-term change? And how are these needs impacting your relationships, your business, and your communication with the people around you? Once you've kind of asked yourself those questions, I want you to ask yourself one more important question and then we'll be done here. How can I redefine how I'm meeting these needs? How am I meeting these needs? And, you know, let me give you an example. Am I feeling significant. Well, are you defining your significance as the approval of others? Are you defining your significance as when I accomplish my daily tasks and follow the game plan that I've set out for myself? Are you, you know, how are you defining it? Redefine that self for yourself. And, you know, in your relationships, look to fill not just one or two or three or four of these needs of your partner, look to fulfill all of them. Because as Tony Robbins says, you know, if you meet five or six of the needs of a relationship, they ain't going anywhere. But it's got to be you meeting their needs, not the other way around. Okay, you get the point. Basically, ultimately, you can seriously impact the quality of your life and other people's lives if you will be intentional in how you meet the six core human needs. And I know that if you take time to unpack what's driving your life and then, you know, understand it and transform it, it's going to make a major change for you. But it's going to take a little work. You've got to be willing to sit down and go through the motions to understand, identify, redefine, and execute on your core needs in life. And if you do this, I promise you that you'll see some massive changes in your life. I know you have greatness inside of you. I know that you can do this. Remember that it's never too late to start living the life that you were meant to live. And as long as you're improving on a day-to-day basis, you can be happy, satisfied, and fulfilled in what you're doing. So I hope that you found some value in this information. If you have, I encourage you to share this podcast with, you know, someone else in your life. I would appreciate it. It means the world to me. And I hope you have an amazing day and a great week. And I'll talk to you more tomorrow. Once again, this is George Wright III. And this has been The Daily Mastermind. Have a great day.
