When Failure is Better Than Success (Replay)

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Welcome back to The Daily Mastermind, George Wright III here with your daily dose of inspiration, motivation, and education. I hope you're having a great day. We're gonna start out today with the quote of the day

by Benjamin Hardy, and the quote is;

How you see yourself as how you act. Once again, how you see yourself is how you act.

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The Importance of Courage

Today I want to talk to you about courage. One of the things I love about the Daily Mastermind is that it's become a real daily ritual for myself. I'm always learning and growing and needing inspiration, motivation, and education as well. So when I learn, I get to share some of those thoughts with you.

So I had a great, reading session today where I was going through some things in OG Mandino's books, university of Success, and it got me thinking. So let me ask you a question. You know you have innate talents and unique talents and abilities and listening to this podcast, I know you want to achieve various levels of success in your life.

But you're faced with opportunities and experiences every single day. So what is it that's holding you back most times from going after what you really want, what you really desire? What is it that's holding you back most of the time from going after what you desire? What's keeping you from taking risks and getting outside your comfort zone?

Are you living too deep inside your comfort zone? Are you content with spending your days doing the same tasks, the same, minimal effort or whatever it takes to get by? I know that because you're listening to this podcast. Most people listening to the podcast are entrepreneurs.

So we know we have unique talents, we know we have and need. More importantly, we need to get outside our comfort zone to get what we want in life. And yet, you know that most of these successes and opportunities and adventures that you have they lie outside your comfort zone and your circumstances.

You know that it takes risk because risk is one of those keys to the gateway of success.

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Facing Your Fears and Taking Risks

So what is it that's holding you back from taking more risks? How do you develop the courage to really move forward and face your fears and uncertainties? And that's some stuff that I was looking at when I was reading this chapter the book from University of Success the other day.

And I came across it and I had some really good thoughts here by Menino. He said something that really impacted me and it made me think, and hopefully, it would make you think as well. He started by saying, hopefully you're really hurting deep inside. And I thought why?

Why is that the case? I think it's obvious because people don't make change when they feel good. They're not as willing to take risks when they feel good. They change when they're fed up. Think about that in your life. Is it usually when you've hit your, rock bottom or certain challenges and things that you really have made changes in your life?

It definitely has been for me. When you go through business setbacks or divorce or different relationship issues that you may have and things, that's when it really makes you take some change and take some assessment of where you're at. Life itself is. Full of risks. And so why don't you take challenges and risks when you know that you're risking all these things anyway.

Life is gonna throw things at you, whether you take risks or not. Risk taking in life is a lot like investing money. You need to just sit back and you need to determine if taking the risk is gonna be outweighed by the rewards. It's really as simple as that. And yet the higher the risk I.

The more reward you're gonna get and the higher the risk. Unfortunately, the more fear is gonna set in, right? When you're doing things in life or in investing that bring a lot of risk, a lot of fear is gonna set in, and some of you, the older you get, the more difficult it's gonna be to take risks.

Sometimes the real cure is risk to your fear, right? The real cure for fear is risk because change is something that will wake you up. We're all given time in our life and we all need to decide what we're gonna do with our time. I. And, we need to understand also you've heard me talk about this before, Tony Robbins, individuals that are in the personal development arena have talked about how as human beings, we do need some stress and some risk and some uncertainty.

We need that uncertainty to fulfill our inner nature. That's why we get to the point where sometimes we need a change. And we're designed, quite honestly, we're designed to operate in times of stress to keep us safe and adapt to life, and we're built to be able to handle some stress. Of course, too much stress is not good either.

We need to learn to balance that.

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Balancing Risk and Reward

So how do you create that balance between risk and reward and not too much risk? How we do that. I think what I've learned over time is different for every individual. There's definitely no one size fits all answer to this. We each need to evaluate what, levels of risk that we can take and yet also fulfill our needs because some people don't need a lot of risk and and they're more content with where they're at, right?

So it's all about balance when it comes to risk. But we need to be able to weigh that against our own definition of success, because I think it's not just about how much risk we're able to take it's a lot to do with what we want in our lives. This is back to your vision. If you want a lot of things in your life, you have to be willing and able to take more risks.

And OG Manino had made another comment, which was great. It's, he said, boredom is the legacy of fear. Meaning, the more you fear, the less action you take, the more bored you may become in life and you're left with that boredom. So are you, you may be feeling bored in your life.

Are you giving into your fears? Are you feeling like your life is a treadmill? Risk taking ironically, is really the cure to that. It's the cure to fear and to boredom. So I go back to how talk about taking risks and this idea of does the rewards outweigh the risk pay off?

You need to experiment a little. I think my recommendation for you is to determine. Your level of risk tolerance, you're gonna have to explore and experiment and take opportunities to get outside your comfort zone. Because the point is you've gotta make yourself feel exhilarated and excited with life and have some degree of uncertainty while also making progress to your goals.

And just balance what works best for you, because look, your best life, it's gonna come when you learn to create some excitement and experience and variety in your life, because that's when you're really living, that's when you're really gonna enjoy and create the best experiences. I've seen most people, they sit on the sidelines of life waiting for the right opportunities or for life to throw 'em a bone, or waiting for some, opportunity to.

Come in front of 'em, don't be the person that's waiting for life to come to you. Be willing to jump in the game and start playing and taking risks so that you enjoy your life and by default you will create massive success and growth.

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The Paradox of Control

Another challenge that we face, I know, I definitely have struggled with is this need for control.

This need for control outweighs sometimes the risk and the, it's your way of trying to mitigate fear. And what I've learned is that you can try to label and control everything in your life or you can start to let go, right? There's a real paradox in this whole idea of control, and it goes something like this.

The highest form of control is when one surrenders all control. It's a real it's a real paradox because, you've heard that phrase that you never really own something unless you're able to give it away. And another example of this, you could take, like learning to ride a bike or I don't know if you've ever learned to ski water ski or snow ski.

If you think about it, you can learn all the mechanics and you can control what you do and how you're doing it, but it's not until you just let go. That you can really, it's hard to explain, but you can really start to make progress. You can't, it's, or maybe if you've ever gone golfing, you're trying to figure out the mechanics of holding the club and swinging and all these things, you, at some point you have to learn that stuff, but then you just gotta let go and do it.

And, we always learn best by losing ourselves and our identity and our need for control because I. What, what we already know isn't gonna get us where we want to be. What we have inside of our comfort zone is not gonna take us past that. Ultimately, we create the highest level of courage when we surrender ourselves to whatever activity that we're learning.

And the irony here is that you also get the best returns and the biggest rewards in life by being willing to let go. I. And so it's a real, it is a real paradox, right? Letting go, facing your fear gives you the most courage. Letting go gives you the most control. It's a really crazy thing, but it's something you need to learn and accept.

So I just ask you this, what do you want in your life? Because what you want in your life will determine how much courage you need. It'll determine how much you need to face your fears and that balance that you'll create.

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Redefining Success and Embracing Courage

And as I mentioned earlier, you need to weigh that against your definition of success because look, if your definition of success is winning the game or getting to a point that's not gonna serve you need to choose a different definition.

For example, to try is to succeed. See when you change your definition of success and winning the game to trying is succeeding, and you accept failure as just another step closer towards your goal, and you redefine your definition of success. I. That's when you become really empowered, and that's when you can, stop having fear, stop you and start becoming empowered and more courageous.

That's when courage starts to take shape and truly drive your actions and results that you experience in life. So I encourage you to choose courage. I encourage you to face your fears. I encourage you to question your definition of success and to start seeing, trying and facing your fears as your definition of success, because that'll empower you, and that'll definitely help you to see more results in your life.

You're gonna be living your best life, and you're gonna start to attract the best version of yourself by letting go.

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Conclusion and Call to Action

And that's my thought for today. I hope that's something that'll help you. If you feel you ha it has, then I'd encourage you to share this episode and get, share, share this episode in this podcast with someone talk to them about what you wanna start doing more to face your fears, put it out there.

It'll help you to grow if you do that. And as a default, it'll also really help us. And I appreciate your support for the podcast. I'm so glad. I appreciate you listening today. I hope that there's some good thoughts there for you, and once again look forward to talking with you more this week. This has been The Daily Mastermind, and my name is George Wright III.

Have a great day.

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