Life Doesn’t Give You What You Want—It Gives You What You Are

Life Doesn’t Give You What You Want, It Gives You What You Are

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Welcome back to The Daily Mastermind. I’m your host, George Wright III, and today we’re going to talk about a powerful idea that can completely shift how you approach success, business, and life. It’s this idea that life doesn’t give you what you want; it gives you what you are. You’ve probably heard me say that before.

This statement hits pretty deep because it’s a truth that most people overlook, and I wanted to talk to you about it today. I was listening to an audio this weekend that really brought these thoughts up, and I wanted to share them with you. So let’s think about this. Many entrepreneurs and business owners spend their lives chasing what they want.

Think about that: more revenue, more freedom, more growth. But what if the reason you’re not getting what you want is because you haven’t become the person who can hold, lead, and sustain it? Carl Jung, who I’ve been reading a lot from recently, once said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

In other words, the outcomes we see on the outside are often reflections of what’s happening on the inside. You’ve heard me talk about this before with T. Harv Eker, who says, “Your inner world creates your outer world.” And if you’re an entrepreneur, a founder, a thought leader—this concept is critical, because your business will never outgrow you.

“Life doesn’t give you what you want; it gives you what you are.”

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The Inner World Reflects the Outer World

So let’s unpack this a little bit today, and this Monday morning I really wanted to get you thinking about some principles I do every Monday—principles that you can carry throughout the week because you’re fresh. So let’s start with the idea that your inner world reflects your outer world. I start with this because everything you experience—your relationships, your business results, even your stress or your opportunities—is a reflection of what’s going on inside you. If you’re constantly overwhelmed, you might be projecting a belief that everything depends on you.

If you keep running into financial obstacles, you might be operating from scarcity rather than abundance. If you attract disorganized teams or clients, it could be mirroring disorganization from within yourself. See, the world doesn’t reward what you wish for; it rewards what you embody. Carl Jung spent much of his career teaching that we have a “shadow self,” the part of the psyche that we hide, repress, or deny.

These parts often run the show in our decision-making, our leadership, or even how we relate to others. Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” So when something in your business keeps triggering frustration, that’s not random—it’s feedback. Sometimes life is just trying to show you the gap between who you are and who you’re actually trying to be. As an entrepreneur, that’s golden if you use this information. The more self-aware you become, the more influence you gain over your outcomes.

Here’s the truth. Most entrepreneurs try to solve internal problems with external solutions. We’ve talked about this with confidence and all kinds of things. We chase new strategies, new hires, new software, new ideas, thinking those things will fix what’s broken. But you can’t outperform your own identity. You can’t out-hustle who you are. Every problem in business is first a personal problem in disguise. If your team lacks alignment, it might reflect a lack of clarity in your leadership.

If your marketing feels inconsistent, it could mirror a lack of conviction in your messaging. If you’re constantly struggling but never fulfilled, it might reveal that you’re operating from survival instead of purpose. I’ve had that happen in my life. I can tell you firsthand, and the more I’ve grown my companies, the more I’ve realized external growth only amplifies what’s inside.

If you’re disorganized, success will multiply chaos. If you’re disciplined and clear, success will multiply that too. So the real work isn’t just scaling your business—it’s scaling you. And Carl Jung’s entire philosophy, if you break it down, was built around one thing: integration. He believed true growth happens when we stop rejecting the parts of ourselves we don’t like and start bringing them into the light.

For entrepreneurs, this means confronting the patterns that quietly sabotage us. Maybe you fear being irrelevant, so you overwork. Maybe you fear rejection, so you avoid sales calls. Maybe you fear losing control, so you micromanage your team. I do that sometimes; I still do to this day. All of that is a shadow expressing itself through your leadership.

When you start to recognize those patterns—and you don’t judge them, but you see them—you gain choice. Awareness gives you that power. It starts turning lights on in the room when you’ve been stumbling around in the dark, so to speak. This is why I keep saying personal development is not a luxury; it’s a leadership responsibility. Because your business, your culture, your relationships—they only rise to the level of your self-awareness. You have to grow yourself in order to grow your life. And that’s why I wanted to start with this topic today.

“You can’t outperform your identity—be it first, then do and have.”

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Awareness, Alignment, Action

So let’s talk about a few practical principles that can help you lead your life from the inside out. These three things I like to call awareness, alignment, action. Let’s start with awareness. You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. Start noticing your recurring frustrations and bottlenecks. Those are mirrors. Ask yourself, “What is this teaching me about who I’m being?” and not just about the surroundings.

Create habits of reflection. This can be journaling and meditation, or even recording voice notes after typical days so you can go back and reflect on them. As entrepreneurs, we love to measure data—KPIs, performance metrics, and things—but how often do you measure your internal dialogue or internal data?

How are your thoughts, your energy, your emotions trending? Because that data drives everything else. Brendon Burchard talks about analyzing, rating, and reporting on the different areas of your life. But awareness is the key. The second thing is alignment.

Once you’re aware, your next step is to create alignment. Make sure your actions match your vows. I’ve told people many times: they say they want something in life, but if your actions don’t follow what you say you want, it’s doubtful you really want it—or that you believe you can have it.

So ask yourself, “Is the business I’m building a reflection of who I truly am, or am I chasing what I think is going to make me happy?” Authentic alignment doesn’t mean comfort. It means integrity. It means saying no to opportunities that don’t match your purpose. It means building a company that serves your life, not one that consumes it.

How many of you are getting your lives consumed because you’re chasing things that don’t matter? When you operate from alignment, decisions become easier. Marketing feels more authentic. People can feel the congruence behind your brand. You’re not trying to be somebody or something you’re not.

That’s what creates loyalty, trust, and long-term success—especially in today’s marketplace. So alignment is key. Awareness, alignment, then action.

Action—this is the embodiment of everything. This is where you stop setting goals to escape who you are and start setting goals that express who you’re becoming, this future version of yourself. Most people set goals to get something, but high performers set goals to grow into something new. They stretch themselves. They understand achievement is a byproduct of identity. So ask yourself this question: “Who do I need to be to create the next level of success?”

Stop analyzing where you are. Start thinking about who you’re going to be and how that version of you would think, decide, and act right now. Then start behaving like that person before the results show up. We expect the heat to come out of a stove before we put wood in it. We expect results before we act in the way we need to. Your identity will change; your reality will follow. Does that make sense? Change your identity, and your reality will follow.

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Practical Tips for Integration

Now, let’s get tactical for just a minute. How do you integrate this inside-out approach in your life?

Here are a few suggestions. Weekly reflection. Every Friday, review your week and identify one recurring challenge. Instead of saying, “How do I fix it?” say, “What does this reveal about who I am? How does this reveal how I’m showing up?” Maybe the issue isn’t your team; it’s your communication. Maybe it’s not lack of time; it’s lack of clarity. I’ve had multiple times that things keep coming up, and I think, “Is this me? What can I do differently to show up differently?”

Another way to do this is morning alignment. Spend five minutes each morning visualizing yourself operating from a calmer, more confident leadership state—the future version of you. When you visualize that, it will help you center yourself for the whole day and your leadership style.

Personal growth rituals are another way. Entrepreneurs spend hours on business plans but rarely design personal growth plans, daily rituals—things that you have to schedule in. I’ve recently been doing more meditating. I’ve also been working on different skill sets. You have to schedule that in. These habits compound. They align your inner game with your outer game, and that’s when growth starts to happen. Let me give you a personal perspective.

About a year ago, I was grinding across multiple businesses—sales, marketing, operations. I was doing a whole bunch of different things. I took it all on my shoulders. And even recently I’ve had this happen again. But when this happens, I tell myself that working harder isn’t the answer. Typically, we tell ourselves working harder is the answer, right? You tell yourself, “I’m just going to grind out of it.” But that’s not the answer. I’ve realized in my life—and this awareness comes again and again—Michelle brings it up to me all the time, and it’s a way to say to yourself, “What do I need to do differently? My need for control or fear of slowing down? My lack of trust in others?”

What do I need to do to start working on myself rather than on the business or the circumstances around me? Once I start working on myself, rather than just on my business, everything changes. Everything starts to grow. Things start to happen—not because I’m doing more, but because I’m being more.

The truth is, life doesn’t respond to effort; it responds to energy. When you become the person who naturally aligns with abundance, confidence, clarity, focus—success has no choice but to match that frequency. And I hope this is a message that you can really internalize today. So here’s the takeaway:

Stop asking life to give you what you want. Start becoming the kind of person who attracts and deserves that. Your business is a mirror. Your results are feedback. Your challenges are invitations to grow. As Carl Jung said, “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” And awakening is where real transformation begins.

If you feel like this is an episode that helps you, I encourage you to dig deep on it. I want to encourage you to take a few minutes this week, write down where in your business or life you’re trying to get something that you haven’t been getting. Write it down. Face it.

Then commit to changing it from the inside out. And I think you’re going to see a lot of things happen.

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Conclusion and Call to Action

So that’s my message for today. I hope you have an amazing week. Hey, listen—if you haven’t heard me say it before, I’m going to say it again. If you want to build your authority with the stuff we’re rolling out with the Authority Media Network, go to TheAuthorityScorecard.com. It’s a quick way to assess where your authority is—where your internal clarity is meeting your external brand. And when you do that—it’s just a quick little quiz—it’ll give you some ways that you can increase your personal brand and authority, which is what you need for authenticity in the market today.

So go check it out. Listen for some new updates this week, and I appreciate you being part of The Daily Mastermind. Hit me up on The Daily Mastermind on Facebook and Instagram, or click in the show notes and you’ll see my email address. Hit me up. Let me know what you’re up to.

Let’s celebrate some wins, and let me know what you’re struggling with. That’s the message for today. Have an amazing day. I’ll talk with you again tomorrow.

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About George 

George Wright III is a proven, successful entrepreneur and he knows how to inspire entrepreneurs, companies, and individuals to achieve massive results. With more than 20 years of executive management experience and 25 years of direct marketing and sales experience, George is responsible for starting and building several successful multimillion-dollar companies. He started at a very young age to network and build his experience and knowledge of what it takes to become a driven and well-known entrepreneur. George built a multi-million-dollar seminar business, promoting some of the biggest stars and brands in the world. He has accelerated the success and cash flow in each of his ventures through his network of resources and results driven strategies. George is now dedicated to teaching and sharing his Prosperity Principles and strategies to every driven and passionate entrepreneur he meets. His mission is to empower entrepreneurs globally, to create massive change and LIVE their ultimate destiny.

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