Disobey Average: Building Unshakeable Confidence with Ben Kjar

In a world obsessed with external markers of success—the size of your bank account, the prestige of your job title, or the aesthetic of your social media feed—it is easy to lose sight of what actually moves the needle on fulfillment. We often look for clarity before we execute, yet the most successful people in the world know that clarity is a byproduct of action, not a prerequisite for it.

Recently on the Daily Mastermind, George Wright II sat down with Ben Kjar, a man whose life story reads like a masterclass in resilience. Ben was born with Crouzon Syndrome, a condition that brought significant medical challenges and intense social bullying. Yet, he didn’t just survive; he thrived, becoming an NCAA Division I All-American wrestler, a successful real estate entrepreneur, and an international speaker.

His message is simple but profound: the ultimate "flex" in life isn't riches. It’s inner peace through genuine confidence.

The Moment Everything Changed: From Curse to Gift

We all have moments that define us, but Ben’s defining moment happened at a grocery store when he was just a boy. After saving up his money for a Twix bar, an adult in line pointed at his face and told his children to stay away because Ben was "probably contagious."

That level of verbal annihilation from an adult would break most people. Ben went home, retreated to a bathroom, and tried to figure out how to "take his face off" just to be normal. It was his mother who stepped in, stood him in front of the mirror, and delivered the truth that would shape his entire life:

"Ben, you are different because you are born to make a difference. Everyone begs for attention; you’re going to get it whether you like it or not. When that attention comes, do not fit in. You were born to stand out."

That shift in perspective transformed a perceived curse into a gift. It wasn't about hiding anymore; it was about stepping into the light.

Why Wrestling? The Art of Controlling the Outcome

When Ben looked for a way to express this new identity, he chose wrestling. It was a strategic choice. In team sports like football, you can hide behind a helmet. In wrestling, there is nowhere to hide. It is one-on-one, raw, and demanding.

More importantly, wrestling offered something Ben craved: Control.

He couldn't control his medical condition, but he could control his effort. While a quarterback might miss a pass in football, in wrestling, the results are a direct reflection of your preparation. Ben adopted a mindset of outworking everyone. If the coach asked for ten pushups, Ben did twenty. He made a decision to "disobey average" at every turn.

This leads to one of his most powerful realizations: Confidence is earned in the dark, long before you ever step onto the mat.

The 3XSC Framework: A Strategy for High Performance

Through years of competing at the world-class level and building businesses, Ben developed a specific strategy he calls 3XSC. This isn't just about sports; it’s a blueprint for anyone looking to level up their business or personal life.

1. Call Your Shot

You must be willing to state your goal clearly and publicly. In high school, Ben wrote "3XSC" (Three-Time State Champion) on his Letterman’s jacket as a sophomore—a feat that had never been done at his school. By "calling his shot," he created a standard he had to live up to every single day.

2. Enlist "Shot Callers"

You cannot reach the pinnacle alone. You need "Shot Callers" in your corner—people who won't just cheer for you from the sidelines, but who will get in the trenches with you. These are the mentors and friends who will hold you accountable when you play small. As Ben puts it, they are the ones who say "Let’s go" instead of just "Go."

3. Set a "Shot Clock"

A goal without a deadline is just a dream. You need a date that expires. Whether it’s buying a marathon ticket months in advance or setting a hard launch date for a business, the "Shot Clock" creates the necessary pressure to ensure execution happens regardless of how you "feel" on any given day.

Disobeying Average as a Life Mantra

For Ben, "Disobey Average" isn't just a catchy slogan; it’s a lifestyle. He argues that many high-impact entrepreneurs excel in their careers but settle for an average life everywhere else—in their health, their faith, or their relationships.

"Our average standard of living—our default way of living—is often our children’s highest potential because that’s what they see."

When we settle for average, we are essentially teaching the next generation to do the same. By choosing to dream, to execute, and to push past the "good enough" threshold, we provide a roadmap for those following in our footsteps.

The 20-Year Shot Call

Ben’s story came full circle recently when he spoke on stage with Tony Robbins. It was a shot he had called 20 years prior while sitting in a college classroom. He didn't just take the course once; he took it four years in a row, soaking in the principles of incantations and mindset.

It took two decades, but the execution never wavered.

The lesson for all of us is clear: Your adversity isn't a liability; it is your leverage. Whether you are dealing with a professional setback, a personal struggle, or a health challenge, those are the very things that can become your superpower if you stop trying to be "Version 2.0" of someone else and start being the best version of yourself.

Final Thoughts and Conclusion

True success isn't about the absence of obstacles; it’s about the refusal to let them dictate your identity. Ben Kjar’s story is a vivid reminder that the very things we often view as liabilities—our struggles, our "differences," and our failures—are actually the leverage points that allow us to stand out in a world that settles for "good enough."

By applying the 3XSC strategy—calling your shot, surrounding yourself with true shot callers, and respecting the shot clock—you move from being a passive observer of your life to an active architect of your destiny.

Don't wait until you feel "ready" to start living your dream. Set the date, buy the ticket, and remember: you weren't born to be a Version 2.0 of someone else. You were born to be you, at full volume. It’s time to stop fitting in and start standing out.

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About George

George Wright III is a proven, successful entrepreneur and he knows how to inspire entrepreneurs, companies, and individuals to achieve massive results. With more than 20 years of executive management experience and 25 years of direct marketing and sales experience, George is responsible for starting and building several successful multimillion-dollar companies. He started at a very young age to network and build his experience and knowledge of what it takes to become a driven and well-known entrepreneur. George built a multi-million-dollar seminar business, promoting some of the biggest stars and brands in the world. He has accelerated the success and cash flow in each of his ventures through his network of resources and results driven strategies. George is now dedicated to teaching and sharing his Prosperity Principles and strategies to every driven and passionate entrepreneur he meets. His mission is to empower entrepreneurs globally, to create massive change and LIVE their ultimate destiny.

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About Guest: Ben Kjar

Ben Kjar was born with Crouzons syndrome (a craniofacial anomaly), and as a young boy the doctors told him that he would live a different life.....and that’s exactly what he’s done! He has risen above any of life’s challenges and become a Victor not a victim. Ben is Utah Valley University’s first-ever NCAA Division 1 Wrestling All-American and has represented the USA team internationally. Ben is an international professional speaker and has told his story to millions around the globe, in front of crowds of up to 10,000 people!

Guest Resources:

• Website: https://www.benkjar.com/
• Instagram: @benkjar
• Facebook: Ben Kjar
• X (formerly Twitter): @benkjar
• LinkedIn: Ben Kjar
• Film Website: https://standoutfilm.com/